I'm also experiencing menopause but in my early 50s. There is something about this stage that makes it a time of reckoning and I wonder if it's because we can't avoid tuning into our bodies and what they are telling us. It's taken me this long to realise I have been living in survival mode and appreciating the centrality of my nervous system in all of this. It really does involve a massive shift as you explain, to put yourself first and give yourself permission to have the things you need.