Shaming Girls For “Inappropriate” Clothes Isn’t The Answer

They should be able to wear whatever they damn well want

Jae L

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Photo by Katarzyna Grabowska on Unsplash

I’m the parent of a fourteen-year-old daughter, so I have skin in the game, so to speak.

She’s had an evolving relationship with her body. When she was little, her body was for twirling, dancing, cartwheeling and generally filling the space around her as she saw fit.

The dark clouds of body shame began to cast shadows at the age of nine when she returned from gymnastics upset that she was the only girl in the class without a flat stomach.

She started covering up with baggy track pants and sweaters, not just for gymnastics classes, but everyday, cold or hot.

She was never going to be a straight-up-and-down kind of a girl and I’m really proud that in her teenage years, she has embraced her curvy body. The baggy clothes are long gone, replaced by scoop neck tank tops and hip-hugging pants.

As with most teenage girls, there’s little distinguishing between the fashion choices of her and her friends. And they carry it off because they’re comfortable in their respective skins. They’re unapologetically, boldly confident. And why the hell shouldn’t they be?

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Jae L

Queer, neurodivergent and in the business of defying expectations. Doing my best to answer the questions I keep asking myself. diverge999@gmail.com