You have something a lot of women don’t have: a male partner who sees what needs to be done around the house and takes responsibility for it. For many women the mental labour involved in identifying and delegating household tasks falls to them. You may have been blessed with good fortune but I’m guessing you also made the effort to negotiate responsibilities early on.

It sounds like the main issue now is how his routine syncs with yours. I hope that the baseline of co-operation and goodwill the two of you have will help you communicate with each other to work through it.